tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post230412167320111011..comments2023-09-19T07:28:06.083-05:00Comments on The Sparkling Martins: Trust the Intensity Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-38573627224588540372014-04-14T21:31:22.691-05:002014-04-14T21:31:22.691-05:00I feel you were writing about my experience with o...I feel you were writing about my experience with one of my daughters! My Maddy was exactly how you explained when she was younger. Unfortunately, I wish I often had a more loving response and not been so scared and frustrated. Luckily I knew enough about attachment parenting styles to try and meet her needs as best as I could. Now at 19 she is a beautiful, caring, empathetic, loving, extremely talented, HAPPY young lady. I cry too when I think about how far she (WE) have come. Home schooling was for sure the best choice, and relaxed home schooling being the best. I loved this article and hope that others who are in the thick of it now receive hope that this season really isn't that long when you get to the other side, and the skills you gain and the choices you make relationally will equal an incredible relationship down the road. I remember when I was explaining how "needy" my daughter was when she was young, a wise friend told me that this will lead to one of the best relationships I'll have....and she was right.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-31080821377478581352014-03-08T20:01:58.172-05:002014-03-08T20:01:58.172-05:00WOW, it sounds like myself. I can read people like...WOW, it sounds like myself. I can read people like a book and often wonder if people are mad at me. It is a gift because of my empathy and love, but my emotions are so super strong almost all of the time and I cry and worry alot. I don't like being around a lot of people when I am senstive (often) because it overwhelms me, and I am scared to go into neighborhoods I dont know. I am 29 now and moving from Long Island -- VT. Dayna, I actually met you for a brief 5 minutes in VT. You were stuck in a ditch on a dirt road, and a guy came to pull you out. You were on your way to a raw party for my friends. I was headed to my boyfriends. Ive been following you ever since. You sound like a fantastic mother and woman. I have found yoga (tiff might enjoy the benefits of yoga).<br />J Kaplunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07613241712876783555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-69844854805835249812014-02-22T17:46:42.538-05:002014-02-22T17:46:42.538-05:00I just wanted to thank you for posting this beauti...I just wanted to thank you for posting this beautiful blog about your daughter. My son too is highly sensitive to sensory things. feelings and change(enviroment change) and with reading you describe her it was like you were describing my 3.5 year old son. He isn't the only one struggling and with me and his determination, which he has A LOT of will succeed! saturnringshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08055613177310295176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-58893320959373302932014-02-02T13:53:18.885-05:002014-02-02T13:53:18.885-05:00I've often heard this idea of a sensitive chil...I've often heard this idea of a sensitive child/one who handles uncertainty badly as a case for a rigid schedule, and I've heard parents rave about how their sensitive child needs to know that at exactly 7:30 they will brush their teeth, etc. I don't have kids yet, but we're thinking about starting a family soon and are trying to learn about different parenting philosophies, so I'm trying to figure out what sort of parent I want to be. How would you say that unschooling in particular/lax parenting/child-led parenting has helped Tiff mature as opposed to scheduling her, if you know what I mean? How do you think she would be different today if she had been raised by a heavy scheduler/parent who believed in structured days?millhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02804440791230199753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-4332553425629523552014-01-26T02:20:43.185-05:002014-01-26T02:20:43.185-05:00I have 4 beautiful autistic children. I completely...I have 4 beautiful autistic children. I completely empathise with your worries for your daughter's difficulties. I also want to add that "labels" for who we are aren't intrinsically bad. You can take explanations for who you are and for why you experience the world differently, without taking therapies or medications or professional advice or behavioral management. I am a proud autistic woman and have much greater happiness since discovering this clue to myself and my life. My children are proud autistics and we have never had "treatment" or the like. We are who we are and autism is intrinsically tied to our personhood and ourselves and all that we do. I'm so glad that your girl in her different ways of experiencing life has found her niche :)<br />Ally Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07862259140856413009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-42364370170402575372014-01-26T02:03:44.610-05:002014-01-26T02:03:44.610-05:00Hi Dayna, thanks for this post. In many ways you m...Hi Dayna, thanks for this post. In many ways you might have been writing about our experiences...right down to the pet sitting business! Sometimes I had to pull back and ask myself what the issue really was...often I realised it was my or societies expectations that were not being fulfilled, there was actually nothing 'wrong'. So glad I followed my heart and guidance from my son...who has always been incredibly in tune with what he needed. So grateful for the journey we have been on. I have learnt so much about myself and the world we live in. The world is so much richer for this boy walking his path alongside me. My hope is for more kids to have their needs met and not be shaped and squished to fit into structures like care and schooling by coercion and medication. Viva freedom...the world needs more free thinkers!anissa ljantahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03037312457171874579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-3049866831324394752014-01-25T23:21:23.494-05:002014-01-25T23:21:23.494-05:00Incredible article!!Incredible article!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-1475667073370803092014-01-25T22:45:51.655-05:002014-01-25T22:45:51.655-05:00Liripoop, I see from your page that your child has...Liripoop, I see from your page that your child has autism. Is this correct? I would say that you aren't just dealing with a highly sensitive child. I do not have experience with healing a child who has autism, so I don't feel comfortable making recommendations to you. I do think that many autistic children do extremely well with freedom-based living, Unschooling and peaceful parenting. <br />I am happy to connect you with other Unschooling parents with autistic children if you'd like to send me an email. <br /><br />~Peace & Love, DaynaDayna Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11509825123401528931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-14249911825687498172014-01-25T22:22:38.033-05:002014-01-25T22:22:38.033-05:00I have a highly sensitive child. Please tell me wh...I have a highly sensitive child. Please tell me what I need to do to stop him sniffing, licking and touching people. We medicate him because it is the only thing we have found in four years (including one of various therapies) that reduces such behaviour. And unfortunately most people don't like being sniffed and licked, in some cases they get violent with him. We medicate him to keep him safe. You're saying medication is not necessary and we can desensitise without medication or therapies. Please tell me how.Liripoophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00346175221964360284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-53270058413235421142014-01-25T21:04:08.805-05:002014-01-25T21:04:08.805-05:00Thank you for sharing this Dayna. My daughter is ...Thank you for sharing this Dayna. My daughter is four and highly sensitive. It gets so hard hearing others claim that she needs medication or that there is something "wrong" with her. I really appreciate you sharing this story and reminding others in our situation that we are not alone.The Alt Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08018386865059614659noreply@blogger.com