tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post5899356242295719689..comments2023-09-19T07:28:06.083-05:00Comments on The Sparkling Martins: The Boy Who Loved DressesUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-39599904424171042362013-11-27T13:35:28.174-05:002013-11-27T13:35:28.174-05:00My 3 year old son loves wearing dresses, skirts, a...My 3 year old son loves wearing dresses, skirts, and his big sister's shoes. Reactions vary from people who think it is a joke to people who just ignore it. Thank you for this post. I was really encouraged by it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06817229387085201887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-83535934023533311502013-02-18T22:48:45.595-05:002013-02-18T22:48:45.595-05:00Thanks so much for your honesty and enthusiasm I&...Thanks so much for your honesty and enthusiasm I've watched some of your youtube shows and interviews. As a homeschooling mom of 3 young children, my husband and I receive lots of criticizing from family, our LOVED ones. My first thought in reading this post was "Wow! How amazing it must be to have a mother who loves and supports UNCONDITIONALLY!" ...because I don't have that. But my second thought was "but what if your children, whom you support unconditionally, end up raising their children very differently, maybe more traditionally, in a way you have never understood or agreed with?" How would you handle that? How would you still happily support and trust their heart to raise their children how most people do when that's obviously not what you believe? I'm asking because I'm playing 'devil's advocate' here...asking what my own mother would ask and think.<br />Thanks,<br />AshleyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08376748958876550982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-42879616815690168592011-03-15T08:09:27.129-05:002011-03-15T08:09:27.129-05:00To this day, I believe as a result of his mom and ...To this day, I believe as a result of his mom and my openness about his choice of clothing, my 11 year old nephew will choose long flowing dresses or skirts when he plays dress up with my 7 year old daughter. I admire his deep seated sense of self. He knows who he is and wearing a dress every now and then isn't going to define him as anything other than a well balanced, self assured individual for whom society's fixation with gender specificity has little meaning! He loves his light sabre, skiing, video games, rough housing, and banging on the drums just as much as he does playing dress up, cooking, and sewing his own fashion creations!Susan Burkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15522054095716657185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-9708176558882100222011-03-14T17:37:36.790-05:002011-03-14T17:37:36.790-05:00This post really touched me as not only did we not...This post really touched me as not only did we not mind it for our oldest, we later found out she (born bio male) had gender identity disorder and now lives wholeheartedly as a little girl. I listened to her and am glad we let her take her path. Now, instead of a sad and possible dead little boy, we have a vibrant, confident, and happy little girl.DeShannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17680728528173437057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-17867624947629210322011-03-14T12:20:11.245-05:002011-03-14T12:20:11.245-05:00I have gotten some raised eyebrows at the fact tha...I have gotten some raised eyebrows at the fact that I have a Spiderman- obsessed daughter (which has been waning lately, but fun while it lasted), so I can appreciate this in some sense. I know it is harder with a boy that has "female" interests than it is the other way around.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-43819668447887446352011-03-12T16:11:55.298-05:002011-03-12T16:11:55.298-05:00You are a truly awesome mother. Your children are ...You are a truly awesome mother. Your children are so incredibly lucky. Few children are raised this way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-29876403567782155992011-03-12T06:19:45.390-05:002011-03-12T06:19:45.390-05:00Thankyou for writing this Dayna, we are on the oth...Thankyou for writing this Dayna, we are on the otherside, and often more socially acceptable side (and i hate using that term because everything is as it is).My middle daughter will only wear boys things, she plays with boys toys, in games she has to be the boy and is happy as such.She is happy in freedom and if that is who she is then it is no one elses buisness.What is it with trying to over analyse everything kids do.They are kids, they dont need their minds disected, they dont need people telling them they are not, goodness forbid, 'normal".Because they are who they are, who they are meant to be.In the end its their life, and its better they go forth in support and love then in fear they are not "pleasing" others.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865415952130476652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-45747115840243394712011-03-11T06:12:19.224-05:002011-03-11T06:12:19.224-05:00Yay to freedom!!Yay to freedom!!Erica Beinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04505988598486516042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-425011888514688512011-03-10T21:34:40.533-05:002011-03-10T21:34:40.533-05:00My younger brother loved to play with baby dolls, ...My younger brother loved to play with baby dolls, which some people insisted would make him into a "sissy boy". He is now one of the most confident men I've ever known and a wonderful, loving father to three great kids. I think being allowed to play with dolls had something to do with that.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13041668328016762797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-18512109383261102822011-03-10T17:25:04.730-05:002011-03-10T17:25:04.730-05:00I recently looked at a daycare facility and was gi...I recently looked at a daycare facility and was given paperwork to take home to read over which detailed things including what to send your child with for the day. It noted that your child should be sent wearing "gender appropriate" clothing. What the heck does that mean?! If my son wants to wear a dress or skirt then that is what he'll wear just the same as if I had a daughter she'd be free to wear jeans, shorts etcLuscious Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04818768777186921094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-89171691601349582192011-03-10T14:51:54.595-05:002011-03-10T14:51:54.595-05:00:-) When my youngest son was three he used to love...:-) When my youngest son was three he used to love dressing up and his pink and lilac fairy costume was right up there with spiderman in his books!karismahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02529919522651147308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-67681202546674267672011-03-10T13:30:20.975-05:002011-03-10T13:30:20.975-05:00Great Post!
It is something to see people today r...Great Post!<br /><br />It is something to see people today raise such silly fear-based objections to boys wearing dresses when there was a time in our history when it was fashionable for men and boys to wear their hair long and to wear "pretty" clothes that included blouses with ruffles, tights, skirts, bows, ect.<br /><br />One of my favorite quotes from the book Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire came from a wizard in a woman's nightdress refusing to put on a pair of trousers:<br /><br />"I like a healthy breeze around my privates, thanks!"Charli Armstronghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06361881403207853719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-31607873810842292152011-03-10T13:30:02.395-05:002011-03-10T13:30:02.395-05:00Great Post!
It is something to see people today r...Great Post!<br /><br />It is something to see people today raise such silly fear-based objections to boys wearing dresses when there was a time in our history when it was fashionable for men and boys to wear their hair long and to wear "pretty" clothes that included blouses with ruffles, tights, skirts, bows, ect.<br /><br />One of my favorite quotes from the book Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire came from a wizard in a woman's nightdress refusing to put on a pair of trousers:<br /><br />"I like a healthy breeze around my privates, thanks!"Charli Armstronghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06361881403207853719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-87252168678604736312011-03-10T11:28:46.879-05:002011-03-10T11:28:46.879-05:00Great blog!!! My son hasn't ever wanted to wea...Great blog!!! My son hasn't ever wanted to wear dresses but I would support him if he did. He does have really long hair, longer than mine so he has gotten the comments about his hair being "like a girl". My youngest daughter loves bugs, and anything gross or disgusting. For example, if we see roadkill in the road, she says "Sweet!". She likes to play in the dirt and with bugs but she also likes to do traditional "girly" things too. She's a tomboy and a princess all wrapped up into one. I would support all 3 of my children no matter what they want to do regardless of the "traditional gender stereotypes". Thanks for the great blog, Dayna!!!!Sherrinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-80498508215505306142011-03-10T11:22:45.746-05:002011-03-10T11:22:45.746-05:00So beautifully written!
Jody
mom of a ten year...So beautifully written! <br /><br />Jody<br /><br />mom of a ten year old boy with long blue hair : )Jodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10251189344329609152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-46146545683188834062011-03-10T11:15:10.675-05:002011-03-10T11:15:10.675-05:00I *loved* this post. My son loves dresses too and ...I *loved* this post. My son loves dresses too and why not, they float and flow and are made of such fantastic fabrics and colors. He and his sister love wearing my make up too and I love the feeling of joy when he comes racing through, sword in hand chopping away at monsters, or roaring along with his kung fu moves, dress swirling around him, stopping for a twirl before running on out again. He's 3 too. And he's used to correcting people when we go out, who think he's a little girl with his long blonde hair, no matter what clothes he's wearing! I also love that many of my friends have the same scenarios going on in their homes and that we're raising children who can be themselves, whether that flows with or at cross currents to gender or any other norms!Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16359851716755199565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-51123406819122352332011-03-10T11:03:07.989-05:002011-03-10T11:03:07.989-05:00Love, Love, Love this! My son has been wearing dre...Love, Love, Love this! My son has been wearing dresses for the past few years and still likes to when he's playing with his sisters. I have never had a problem with it. I even put his long blonde hair up in two ponytails when he asked to have his hair like his sisters'. My family did have problems with it too. They said that I was 'mixing him up' and other things like that. It's so nice to hear about other parents letting their sons be free to dress how they want and not try to change them to be more 'manly' when all the kid wants is to just be who they are. Thank you so much for sharing this! :)Samanthanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2465910115586305912.post-246272023518457982011-03-10T10:41:12.196-05:002011-03-10T10:41:12.196-05:00Absolutely beautiful! I admire your heart and unc...Absolutely beautiful! I admire your heart and unconditional love. I truly believe that this is the key to life - being free and happy and believing that it's ok (and actually a good thing) when square pegs don't fit into round holes! Screw the round holes!!! LOL!<br />Cyndi (Peaceful Hippie Cyndi on Facebook ~<3~)Hippie Chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13472052481478558392noreply@blogger.com