Monday, April 13, 2009

Karate Gratitude


Last week I posted about our families "negative" experience with a karate class. I received an outpouring of support and love which I am so grateful for. It felt so nice to realize how many people care about us.
Since that time, my awareness of the situation has shifted. My inner process has led to reevaluate the experience and see it with new eyes.

I feel that I was riding low on the vibrational scale that week. I manifested the experience, which my sweet friend Elizabeth pointed out to me. I was fearing the situation and fearing that my kids wouldn't be respected and that is exactly what I experienced.

Today, I feel that I could have seen the whole thing so differently. Bringing my kids to a karate class with a karate teacher who was in the military for 7 years, was maybe not the best choice. It would have been like me bringing my kids to school and getting upset that they were being asked to do school work while they were there and feeling a victim for that.

The karate teacher called to me to apologize for singling Devin out and making him feel bad. She was having a hard day herself and was also riding low vibrationally. I know that she was volunteering her time to offer the class to the parents in the group. She also had very specific training to teach kids a certain way. It was a "tough love" kind of approach and this was the only way she knew how to lead the class. She did the best she could with what she knew. I still do not feel that the way to create kind, loving beings is through demmanding obedience, but I know that not everyone shares my belief about this.
The other mothers talking were just blown away that I would not force my child to stay in class. It wasn't about me. It was about them. I was showing an option that maybe they didn't consider before. Maybe because of my actions, they will have the courage one day to do the same for their child.
Sometimes we have what I call, "back-steps" on this Journey. It is easy to sometimes find yourself in the cultural mindset of victimization, especially living a life like this, because so few people parent this way. Our "back-steps" however, are usually followed by enormous leaps forward.

I am still very grateful to have respected my kids choice to leave. I will always support them in ensuring they receive respect. I am grateful for another opportunity to grow, learn and realize that the only person who can make me feel like a victim is myself.

7 comments:

Danielle said...

This is a great post, Dayna. PLZ don't delete it! I wondered if you were having a bad week that week...

sunnymama said...

It's inspiring to read how you shifted your awareness. Thank you.

mamak said...

I am so grateful to have found you! Wether you know it or not, but you are such an inspiration to me. You are teaching me so very much about perception, and gratitude. I am learning to live with an attitude of thanks, and a realization of abundance that I too have in my life that I was not very aware of before. So I wanted to thank you today. I am on a beautiful path that I may have passed by before discovering you. Have a great day, Dayna.-K

Anonymous said...

Interesting post. Glad it worked out.

Danielle said...

I agree with mamak

the good life mama said...

I wanted to share how much I appreciated reading your karate post last week, and your follow up today. Going against the norm and following my heart is not always easy. Reading your story, and your blog in general, is such a source of inspiration. Be well-- Heather

Dayna Martin said...

Thank you so much everyone! (((hugs)))
~Daya