Thursday, April 14, 2016

Unschooling FAQ with Dayna Martin


Hello Friends!


Dayna here, to share some common problems that many face when they first come to Radical Unschooling and Peaceful Parenting. I will share some of the common problems and misconceptions and offer you link to articles written specifically to address that problem or hurdle to understanding this peaceful and loving way of being with our children:

MathPeople ask me, all the time, how my children learn math without any kind of formal schoolwork. I share that they learn what they need to learn as they go through life, when it is useful to them. Math is a tool to help us get what we want and it is *easy* to learn when a person learns what they need to, as they need it, instead of being forced to “practice” with problems that are totally out of context for them, just to get the work done, most of the time, so that they don’t get in trouble for not doing it..... Read the rest of the article here.

Reading and Writing
: Unschooled kids DO learn to read and write in their own time, without force. The age for natural learning and the process of it looks very different than a authoritarian approach. Read more about forced vs. natural minestones/learning here.

Chores: 
My Unschooled children have never had chores. We have never had charts hanging on our fridge with certain household tasks for them to take care of with stickers as rewards. 
Yet, Devin, Tiff, Ivy and Orion all help with the housework because they truly want to. How is this possible? Read more here.

Bedtimes: Last night, around ten, Orion told me he was ready to go to bed. He is only three years old. About an hour later, Ivy came crawling up the stairs and said, “I love going to bed!” She brushed her teeth, and snuggled in next to us and asked me to tickle her back. All of my children love bedtime. I know it is because they were never forced or coerced to go to bed before they were tired and ready to. Living the Radical Unschooling life, we choose to respect our children’s natural sleep cycle. I believe this is the healthiest way for children to live, without a parent-imposed bedtime.
Read more here.


FoodsIt might shock some people that my children can choose whatever they want from the supermarket, just like I do. Our financial limits vary from month to month, but within our budget, they have the freedom to choose what they want for snacks and meals. They will very often take their own cart and just go off and shop themselves. I love this aspect of the Radical Unschooling life! Read more about food freedom here.

Media
There is a lot of anger surrounding television in the naturally minded community. Articles about “Killing Your TV!” are everywhere and they are so steeped in a fear and misinformation. Read more about media freedom here.


Tuesday, April 12, 2016

Dayna Martin: Repurpose Your World!

Over the last year, I've really delved into my creative, artsy side. To be honest, I never knew I had one! I began becoming brave and trying new things, like painting and crafting more difficult projects than what I have done with the kids over the years. I discovered a new love for "Repurposing" and have been enjoying the evolution of my consciousness and creativity over this last year. It has been incredibly powerful! I invite you to explore this side of yourself if it appeals to you. You may begin to heal from aspects of your past that you didn't know needed healing and releasing. I am so grateful to my family and friends who always continue to support me in my evolution.


I built this Murphy Desk in our kitchen out of a pallet today. This used to be where we'd hang our coats. I also took off the door from the kitchen to the living room and replaced it with this door that has a window so when you are at the desk you can see into the other room. It took me all day to complete this project. I couldn't have done it without Devin's help! I love it so much! It is a special little nook where I can read my cookbooks and have my own quiet space, but still be connected with everyone if they are in the living room.




I sewed doilies on a few pillows. 

I made this crazy dream-catcher with leftover ribbon
I painted the baseboard in the kitchen green to look like grass then painted stems and leaves of flowers. Then used colorful buttons as the flowers and hot glued them on.  It came out adorable!






Dayna Martin International Advocacy

Our family has recently returned from an amazing trip to Mexico, where I spoke at Anarchapulco.
I spoke about Compassion for children and animals and also did a one day workshop on Peaceful Parenting. The kids had an amazing time Unschooling in Mexico! They learned so much and connected with many amazing people. Here are a few pics from our trip:
The people at Anarchapulco were some of the most intelligent and passionate people that I've ever met. Freedom fighters are so open and excited about Unschooling and so hungry to learn how to live in peace with their children.

We stayed with our good friends, Lisa and Nathan in Mexico. They were so kind and generous to invite us into their home. It was just beautiful! We had our own penthouse and enjoyed their pool and showers outside. 

Orion in his bliss!

This pic was taken right after my main presentation called, "ReAwakening Compassion"

This was my audience! It was such a powerful speaking engagement. I was honored to bring the idea of peace and compassion to those who have no voices. 

Joe took this incredible pic of some homes in Mexico City. 



Wednesday, December 23, 2015

Unschooling Home of Love & Compassion

Over the last few months I have really enjoyed giving our home a Peace & Compassion Makeover.
My creativity has emerged and I had no idea I could create what I have in our home. In fact, we have an actual style now. Well.. it is more of an UnStyle and if I was to categorize it,
I'd say it is Gypsy-Bohemian.

I decided to bring more color and joy into our lives and in doing so, we've all felt more peaceful. In fact, I contribute our family to all embracing veganism in part to the choices we've made in our lives to consciously bring more focus on our home environment itself. Facilitating the kids joys have been even more positive, as a result to our redesigning our home. Radical Unschooling homes are all unique and a reflection of the family itself. I have enjoyed this process so much that I wanted to share it with you all. 


When we consciously bring Peace and Compassion to our awareness through creativity, we start a momentum with the energy of the space we share with those we love and it becomes an experience of transformation. Our family loves our home, and I feel so good that I could create a loving, peaceful space that continues to infuse them with love and compassion. It is an ever-evolving space that will never be done. Just like life itself, it is about the Journey.



























 
 

Tuesday, December 22, 2015

My Children Aren't Neglected! They Are Respected!

I've created several memes to share snippets of Radical Unschooling philosophy. The most controversial of which being this first one. What I am sharing in this meme is the freedom and respect that children deserve in regards to their own bodies. The interesting thing is, most people in disagreement with this meme are making assumptions that children, when given information and support, will made bad choices. If my child doesn't want to wear a jacket somewhere, I bring it for him. I am always there to ensure they have warm clothes, if they change their mind.
Being barefoot is healthy and we support our children in being barefoot when they want to be. This doesn't mean they are barefoot all the time. They understand when it is necessary, and never protest when shoes are necessary.

"Children with the healthiest and most supple feet are those who habitually go barefoot, according to Dr. Lynn T. Staheli and a growing number of other pediatric orthopedists. His studies of developing nations show that non-shoe-wearers have better flexibility and mobility, stronger feet, fewer deformities, and less complaints than those who wear shoes regularly." Lynn Staheli, MD

This meme went viral on social media. I received dozens of messages, comments and emails as a result of sharing this the other day. The support for this promotion of children's rights was overwhelming.
Times are changing, and I am happy that those looking for an alternative way of raising children can find inspiration and support from our family.

Feel free to share this meme.


 


Monday, October 26, 2015

Dayna Martin: Tiff's Dream Is Coming True!




This weekend, Tiff, has started on a new and exciting journey!

My sensitive, intense daughter, Tiff, is making her dreams come true! She just turned 14 and the world is hers! So glad we never drugged, forced conformity, beat down, or changed any aspect of her beautiful, highly-spirited self! The qualities that made her challenging to parent when she was a toddler and young child were never taken out of her, to make life easier for us as parents,
 or the other adults in her life. She wasn't forced to be obedient, or punished or treated as subservient in any way, in all of her powerful intensity. These qualities of her being, that are still respected, will be the fierce, guiding force that will enable her to get anything she wants out of life - with confidence and passion.
Radical Unschooling - Freedom, Love, Peace and Compassion
Our children are able to be Who They Are, through living this amazing life! 



Rock your life!
Dayna Martin



Friday, May 15, 2015

Beautiful Yarn Balls Project

What You Need For Yarn Balls:
  • yarn (whatever colors you like)
  • balloons: Various size circular balloons to make different sizes
  • white glue: I used Elmers Glue

  • Pour white glue onto a plate. (It washes off the plate pretty easy, but if you are worried about  it, use a paper plate.) 
  • Lightly blow up one balloon, so it stays round and not oval. 
  • Pull the yard through the glue as you wrap it around the balloon. 
  • Continue wrapping until it covers a lot of the balloon. You want the yarn to resemble a ball. 
  • Let yarn balloons dry overnight. When you wake up the yarn should be stiff and hard. 
  • Pop balloon and pull through one of the larger spaces in the yarn ball. 

    These are so magically pretty! We hung ours on our indoor tree! You can put them in a basket, hang them in your bedroom or give them as a gift!

    Hope you loved this project! 
    Peace & Love, Dayna

  

Wednesday, April 8, 2015

Mother - Daughter Connection Art


“Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up.” 
― Pablo Picasso


"My Art is the hide-and-seek
Between my soul’s illumining smiles
And my heart’s streaming tears."
– Sri Chinmoy

Ivy and I both love crafts and art. I had the idea to create a work of art together, that represents our relationship and Oneness and expanding connection as mother and daughter. We began by gluing various fabrics to a piece of cardboard, almost like a quilt. It looked so pretty, right from the beginning. We immersed ourselves in the process while listening to some  positive, inspiring music that ranged from Amy Steinburg to Skrillex.

We talked, we laughed and we were totally Present.  I felt so close to Ivy during this time creating from our hearts to symbolize our love and relationship as mother and daughter. Her ideas flowed and I embraced them, and every single part of this art piece was discussed and agreed upon - together. My sweet daughter felt so special, because I was with *her* one on one, working together on a common goal of creating something beautiful that represented our relationship. 


The symbolism of our combined vision began to take form. Hours went by and we were getting more and more excited at how it was coming out. We began adding elements of nature and then added special gifts that we had received from others. Finally, Ivy had the idea of adding positive quotes. It was just what it needed to bring the energy of our vision together. When we were finished, we smiled and hugged thanking one another for such a beautiful co-creation. We were both feeling such peace and love in our hearts. 


I want to encourage others to co-create art with their children. The presence and connection takes physical form, as the art is born. It is peaceful, relaxing, memorable and powerful...




Friday, March 20, 2015

Devin's Looms & Weaving



Devin has a growing interest in Viking-age craft and clothing. He has been making his own clothing for several years. It started with modifying them, during his Steampunk interest. Slowly it grew to include designing his own clothes. He pretty much only wears things he has made himself. He hand-sews and hand-dyes with natural fabrics and dyes.

He has built a number of looms over the last few weeks. This point as a Radical Unschooling family is very interesting to me. I couldn't have predicted what life would be like with an Unschooled teen - now I have two of them!

Devin is such a motivated, creative person. I would say "genius," but in all honesty, I believe that every child has the potential for this creativity, drive and passion. Unfortunately, most young people today do not have the freedom to pursue what they are passionate about, because their lives are filled with everything that schools and parents feel are more important.  

As the years roll on and on, and our children grow and change, I grow and change. So much is shifting in the world in regards to education and parenting. The trust and confidence that I have for my children on their life path is unwavering.  The love in my heart grows as I heal from my own childhood and as I witness and experience my children's free, respected lives. My children have incredible talent, as does EVERY child, if given the freedom and respect they deserve.

This is a peg loom that Devin made. He makes scarves and blankets with it. 


Here is some cotton yarn that Devin dyed with turmeric, red cabbage and spinach. 


This is a Saami Rigid Heddle Loom that Devin built. It is attached to his floor and ceiling.


Devin wove this on his Heddle Loom. It is so beautiful!




This is a Warp-Weighted Viking Loom that Devin made, with the help from his Unschooled friend, Trystan. They worked on it for days and it is absolutely incredible.
Here is a finished woven project that Devin made with his Viking loom. 


Whenever I post about Devin on social media, I receive tons of incredible feedback from people who love, praise and celebrate him. Obviously, I think my kids are amazing and awesome, but I want to point out that ALL children and teens have this creativity within themselves. You just need to take your kids out of school, stop punishing and controlling them and give them as ENORMOUS of a world as possible, to learn and grow from. Support them and help them get what they want in life. Be their source of constant optimism and encouragement and LOVE them, unconditionally.

PEACE & LOVE, Dayna