Dakota decided to call herself Tiffany over a year ago. She feels that the name Tiffany suits her much better than Dakota. We have always honored this request as Joe and I both feel that it should be her choice what to be called, no one else's.
I have referred to her as Dakota on this blog since I began it, but today is a turning point for me. I am honoring her request at a new level and although she can't read yet, I will be referring to her as Tiffany on our family blog sometimes.
I have seen Tiffany's bright light inside of her grow since Orion joined the family. She is the most nurturing and loving human being toward him. She treats him like a little Buddha and jumps to help in anyway that she can. She has grown in ways that I can't explain. I have never witnessed such love from one sibling to another.
Tiffany is a very highly sensitive child. She feels everything so intensely. Not many people "get" her. When you have a highly sensitive child it's challenging because most people only focuse on seeing things through cultures filter of "good or bad behavior" and they never take the time to understand *Who She Is*. She feels this rejection and being so sensitive experiences others energy and it hurts her. This has been something that I help her navigate through and understand. She can't help her own intensity. What she needs is UNconditional love and acceptance and for people to look past how she is communicating and hear what she is trying to express and why. I believe that our culture is so focused on "good" behavior that highly sensitive and intense kids are labelled "bad" for something that they can't help at all. It is *Who They Are*. It is one of the reasons so many kids are medicated and have their spirits broken. It seems that to most obedience is the main focus. Not many people take the time to look at the needs under the behavior.
I am so thankful that we are Tiffany's parents so she isn't labelled and drugged.
Since I gave birth to her I have grown as a human being in so many ways. Tif has taught Joe and I patience and understanding on a level that we never knew before. If it wasn't for her I may not be so *Joyful* in life. The contrast she gives our family has been such a gift.
Her *Shine* is so bright. I love everything about her.
So this is to you Tiffany Rose! Thank you for being *You* I am so honored to be your Mommy. I love you so much my sweet girl.