Children are naturally living in the present and rarely focus or worry about the future in the way that most adults in our culture do.
It's interesting to me that our culture raises kids to be so future focused. We then spend years as adults trying to undo this mental mindset through yoga, meditation and self-help books to convert us back to our natural way of being, which is to be more Present.
I feel that Radical Unschooling is the most natural, Zen way for children to live. When we never take this default way of being in the present away from children, they never have to go through all that so many of us have to do to get back to the state of being that feels so good and so natural.
Yes, my kids are different in the sense that they are very Present. They do not worry about the future. I wish that more kids in our culture had this choice. Some parents may be afraid of that and may not want to live a life outside of the mainstream because they don't want their kids to stand out, or be different from their peers. Many parents worry because they don't want their kids to get made fun of, hurt emotionally in some way from not thinking and living in the same way as other kids their age. This worry is the perfect example of a "fear-of the future" based mindset, which is our culturally conditioned way of being.
I am proud that my kids are different in their focus on life. They have a depth of happiness and self-worth that I did not know until I was an adult. Through Radical Unschooling we never take away this very natural way of *Being* from our children. Their inner guidance is respected, trusted and never silenced by others agendas. They are pure and unfettered. What others think of them isn't a concern in the way it was to most of us as children.
I know in my heart that that happy moments lead to happy days, happy weeks, happy months and happy years. A joyful, fulfilling life overflowing with self-love is the result of a happy childhood. When a child is able to live in Freedom pursuing their passions and interests with non-judgment and support they have so many opportunities for growth and expansion. I never worry about my children's future. This sounds crazy for some people to hear. My trust is so strong because the "future" is now.
Here are a few things that Devin created this week. The first one is a painting he made on a wall in our basement and the other is a type of origami.
The focus in his art brings tears to my eyes. I am so grateful that his Life and own happiness is a focus. Not performance, or rewards, or what others think. He is living in a state that many of us are striving to later in life. I truly believe that for us, Radical Unschooling is the most natural, organic and authentic way for our children to live. It enables our kids to always stay connected to their Source with unwavering self-love. When their cup is overflowing, they have so much more love to give to others.